My email to Ex:

A while back, you provided me with some names of therapists for our son.
They were not located in M_____ (or even neighboring towns).  I
received referrals from DYFS and from M_____ Medical for a
M____ therapist, Dr. D___ who is located on Maple Ave. in
M____.  She is licensed and takes Blue Cross Blue Shield.  She
specializes in children and anger/stress management.  As the school has
also recommended counseling, I trust that this recommended counselor
suits.

His response:

The names I provided you were from M_____ Medical and within
M____ area.  I don’t know what you’re talking about.

Daughter told me that last week you and Alex were fighting. In fact,
she said (again) how Son always picks on her at home.  Your previous
response to me when I notice all is this was “.. that they are fine at
home, I don’t  know what you’re talking about.”

She said you were swearing at him, he was swearing back, you took away
his PS3, that he kicked you in your bad knee and you slapped him and
made him go to this room. Her words.  I’m concerned about this.

And your barn man writes me “.. You should be grateful for my
involvement with Daughter and Son. They are adjusting very well, much
better than expected.”  Yeah right..

Where should I pick up Son tonight?

I reply:

I’m not certain what your response has to do with my email.  I was
talking about his poor choices at school.  For the record, while he did
lose PS3 due to poor grades, there was no fight, I never slapped Son
and he never kicked me.  Interesting that she would say that since I was
told (again) that you were drinking in front of them among other things.
But that’s not what this email is about.  It’s about getting Son some
help.  It’s also about the school recommending therapy and a recommended
Maple Ave. therapist who specializes in child therapy with stress.
M______ is closer than L_____ and C______ (the two that you
emailed me). Plus the C______ doctor specializes in ADHD which I
think we both agree is not the issue.

Son is home.  He was suspended.  He has lost all privileges and I would
hope that you’d

He replies:

Impossible they said that.

So you’re saying Daughter lied to me?

Dr. D____’s speciality is: “Life Coaching Relationship Issues Separation/Divorce Depression Anxiety Parenting ADHD” DYFS is as incompetent as they come and I won’t allow my kids go to any place they recommend.

My response:

Frankly, I don’t believe she said that to you at all.  But I’m not engaging in a distracting, toxic dialogue with you when I’m simply trying to help my son get some help so he doesn’t get expelled from school. Her specialty is Children, Adolescents, Adults, Parenting and Relationship Issues, Anxiety, Depression, and Anger/Stress Management.  This is about getting Son someone to talk to.  I have obtained the referral as indicated in section 1.6 of the PSA from the physician which is all that I have to do.  I don’t think M____ Medical is incompetent.

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